Thought About How Past Trauma Effects Present Relationships:
My shit effects your shit and your shit effects my shit. (We trigger each other. We need to work on ourselves first, before we can work on Us.)
I am a Rebel. I don’t have to fit in a box or label. I am allowed to question and break the rules or norms. I choose to be me, for me.
I started this War, and I will fight it. I will not tolerate “collateral damage”. I know you have issues with me, keep it to me… leave my family and friends out of it. ~Personal Declaration
My Progress Philosophy:
“The best, most intentional progress, is slow progress.”
Is Self-Care Selfishness?
Self-Care is NOT selfish and putting myself and personal needs first is NOT selfish.
Taking a rest day, making art, making my physical & mental health a priority…. these things are self-care.
I am allowed to be curious. I am allowed to ask “Why?”. Never be blind, always ask “Why?”. We should not be forced to Conform in order to fit in or be accepted.
Explaining to Someone why you can’t “walk away” or leave (abusive situations, cults, etc.):
You can’t walk away or just leave when the abuser/perpetrator is standing in front of the door, hiding it.
—Update:
It’s impossible to leave when the Wizard behind the curtain is standing on the trapdoor. Until you realize this and push her (or him) out of the way.
The reason I feel more comfortable saying I am a survivor of a Cult-Like Family:
I was Programmed. It’s like taking a Windows PC and forcing it to run on an Apple OS. Then being made to believe that the computer was broken and this was the correct OS. I now work on purging the incorrect Programmed OS, one application at a time.
Keep Going!
Acknowledge it. Accept it as their opinion. And keep moving forward.
Don’t take most things personally. It’s probably not even about you.
The Boxer or The Fighter:
The difference in Strength and Courage can be seen in a boxer or a fighter. They can be the strongest, fastest boxer or fighter in the world. If they doesn’t have the courage to step into the ring, it’s wasted.
3 Traits of a Cult or Cult-like Family:
- You give everything (without realizing), on the promise of getting more in return in the future. {you give financially, recruitment, your identity, your soul, everything, on the promise that you get 10x or 100x more back, or you’ll reach enlightenment, or salvation/redemption}
- You can’t tell anyone, not even yourself, that they or you, are in Cult (you can give them hints or tiny pieces of information)
- You don’t leave a cult (or Family), they throw you away when they feel they are done with you. When they have drained you dry.